Therapy for Relationship Trauma
Sylva, North Carolina.
“Silence is golden, I have been broken, Safe in my own skin, So nobody wins; If I raise my voice will someone get hurt, And if I can’t feel then I won’t get touched, If no truths are spoken then no lies can hide”- Garbage
Many folx I work with believe that they are broken or “damaged goods” because of previous traumatic experiences…
…such as sexual assault, emotional abuse, or physical abuse, particularly by previous romantic partners. I have found that relationship trauma is common for neurodivergent and gender expansive folx.
The scariest thing about relationship trauma for many folx is that it can quite literally get under your skin, into your head, and into your body. And even worse, it’s the kind of wound that people can’t “see” because there aren’t necessarily physical scars or “obvious” evidence that can be detected by most people (also because they don’t know what the hell to look for, which is also incredibly problematic).
If you have experienced relationship trauma, you may resonate with the following:
You have been in one or multiple abusive romantic relationships.
You struggle to know who you are in romantic relationships.
You constantly worry about “doing something wrong” in relationships.
You’ve recently broken up with a partner or been broken up with by a partner.
You find yourself drawn to partners that don’t work out and you can’t figure out why.
You want to be physically intimate with your partner, but you often panic or shut down.
You’ve met an awesome partner, and you can’t trust them, no matter how hard you try.
You say “yes” a lot (often at your expense) but rarely say “no” in your relationships.
You feel a lot of shame about your relationship history or romantic experiences.
You’re terrified to speak about your needs in a relationship.
You often have big emotions in relationships- particularly around perceived rejection.
You know something has been “off” in past relationships but you aren’t sure what.
You have experienced a lot of confusion in past relationships.
Therapy for relationship trauma can help you:
Find out your pain points and emotional triggers in relationships.
Re-inhabit your body- at your own pace, without judgment.
Learn practical skills to support you when you feel overwhelmed or shut down.
Discover your needs and values in relationships.
Set effective boundaries in relationships.
Learn communication and conflict management skills that actually work.
If you are ready to learn more about how you want to show up in romantic relationships, reach out today to see if we might be a good fit.
1294 Savannah Drive, Suite 3, Sylva, NC 28779
Monday to Thursday : 11am – 5pm